I have written on previous  posts  on anger management techniques and  I have  addressed  different topics. I addressed understanding the cues and triggers of  anger, the positives and the negative to anger, a secret to anger(one of them being expectations),  and I  talked about calming down techniques. So  now that you are calmed down,don’t escalate it any further. You have taken your break from it and feel calm? The next  anger management technique is that you both must agree to work it out. You show willingness to communicate by facing each other, preferable sitting down  and... Read More

First of all, what is individuation? Individuation is a process of separation from the identities that others have told you about who you are.  These processes are a self esteem activities because the process increases your self worth and self esteem by claiming your uniqueness and your values.  The more you know yourself and your unique voice and qualities, the more able you are to know your strengths and your limits and  the better to navigate in your world. There are four different individuation processes in these self esteem activities: 1. The first individuation process usually occurs... Read More

Trying to hide your feelings is very difficult. The truth is, we  are always expressing  through Nonverbal communication. Some people can read nonverbal communication more easily than others. Let’s talk about trying to hide our crabbiness, another word for crabbiness is irritability. You may not be feeling satisfied or you may want things to be different. Nonverbal communication of impatience and irritability can be shown in many ways: –Tapping fingers or objects -Tapping your foot –A huff or a sigh –Rolling your eyes up –Looking at your watch or the clock -Your... Read More

We’ve all lied at sometime.  We’ve all been lied to. We even lie to ourselves?  We believe in being honest, so…why do people lie?  The importance of communication can shed some light on this situation.  As teenagers, we probably have all lied to our parents at some point.  We lie to get our own way, but behind that is that we didn’t want to get a no or have our parents angry or upset with us.  As adults, we may lie to our personal and primary relationships. We lie in two ways: 1.  We lie to ourselves about ourselves.  We deny aspects or parts of ourselves because... Read More

You feel yourself getting angry or you’ve just blown up at someone, now what do you do? What needs to happen is for you to calm down. Remember people respond to your emotions and not to your words, so it’s best to communicate from a calm place. So basically calming down is calming your mind down. Anger management techniques help with this. If you’ve just blown up or get very angry, research show that it takes 20 to 30 minutes for your brain to return to normal. You want your brain to be calmer so you can find win-win solutions. And also to be able to do any repair work in the... Read More

Self esteem is believing in yourself.  It is saying to yourself and others – “I matter to myself.” It is the feeling of self-confidence, knowing you can do (or get the help to do) whatever it is you want to do. It is also self-worth, knowing you have value.  You do not need to prove your worth or earn your worth; you already have it. Self esteem activities help you build your feelings of self-worth and self confidence. So some  self esteem activities are: 1. One of the most important activities is how we talk to ourselves inside our heads, with no put downs.  Talk to yourself... Read More

Have you ever sat in the room and felt uncomfortable?  Have you ever had a conversation with someone who was talking reasonably and  made sense but you didn’t believe them? Well you were responding to nonverbal communication. Most of our communication is nonverbal communication.  It is said only about 7 -10% of our communication are the words that we speak.  The rest of our communication is non-verbal communication.  There are very many ways we communicate non verbally. Some ways are body language.  Are we open, are we closed.  Are we moving forward or are we pulling back. The tone... Read More

Do you ever feel like everyone seems to take advantage of you? They seem to ‘take’ but rarely ‘give’ back to you when you need help?  It feels like a one way street! If you answered yes, then you need to build your self esteem up. You need some Self esteem activities. Self-esteem is about taking care of yourself.  It’s about learning to trust yourself.  Today, I’m going to write about three Self esteem activities. 1. Build your ability to say no. This means you just don’t say yes to everything.  Instead of  saying yes, I want you to stop and say... Read More

I want to tell you about a secret today, a secret behind anger. We all like secrets,  I know I do, especially good ones that help me! What’s the real secret behind anger?  That’s what I want to talk about today. The  TOP secret for anger management techniques. Here is the secret, all anger is an unmet, unrealistic expectation! When you are depressed or timid, you often hold in your anger and/or deny you have needs and expectations. Wow, what does that mean? It means that something  didn’t happen that we expected and now we’re angry about it. I will give you an example-... Read More

I want to talk about the importance of communication. So “How can  I  improve my communication, anyway? We all have times when communication has broken down, when we want someone to “read our mind”, but most people cannot read our minds. So, we need to be able to talk to others about what’s going on with us, and to ask for what we want, and to let people know when they effect our feelings. And this can be scary. It is sometimes easier  to get mad at someone for not at least guessing what we want rather than be         vulnerable and expose ourselves and later... Read More