I have written on previous  posts  on anger management techniques and  I have  addressed  different topics. I addressed understanding the cues and triggers of  anger, the positives and the negative to anger, a secret to anger(one of them being expectations),  and I  talked about calming down techniques. So  now that you are calmed down,don’t escalate it any further. You have taken your break from it and feel calm? The next  anger management technique is that you both must agree to work it out. You show willingness to communicate by facing each other, preferable sitting down  and... Read More

You feel yourself getting angry or you’ve just blown up at someone, now what do you do? What needs to happen is for you to calm down. Remember people respond to your emotions and not to your words, so it’s best to communicate from a calm place. So basically calming down is calming your mind down. Anger management techniques help with this. If you’ve just blown up or get very angry, research show that it takes 20 to 30 minutes for your brain to return to normal. You want your brain to be calmer so you can find win-win solutions. And also to be able to do any repair work in the... Read More

Self esteem is believing in yourself.  It is saying to yourself and others – “I matter to myself.” It is the feeling of self-confidence, knowing you can do (or get the help to do) whatever it is you want to do. It is also self-worth, knowing you have value.  You do not need to prove your worth or earn your worth; you already have it. Self esteem activities help you build your feelings of self-worth and self confidence. So some  self esteem activities are: 1. One of the most important activities is how we talk to ourselves inside our heads, with no put downs.  Talk to yourself... Read More

Have you ever sat in the room and felt uncomfortable?  Have you ever had a conversation with someone who was talking reasonably and  made sense but you didn’t believe them? Well you were responding to nonverbal communication. Most of our communication is nonverbal communication.  It is said only about 7 -10% of our communication are the words that we speak.  The rest of our communication is non-verbal communication.  There are very many ways we communicate non verbally. Some ways are body language.  Are we open, are we closed.  Are we moving forward or are we pulling back. The tone... Read More

Do you ever feel like everyone seems to take advantage of you? They seem to ‘take’ but rarely ‘give’ back to you when you need help?  It feels like a one way street! If you answered yes, then you need to build your self esteem up. You need some Self esteem activities. Self-esteem is about taking care of yourself.  It’s about learning to trust yourself.  Today, I’m going to write about three Self esteem activities. 1. Build your ability to say no. This means you just don’t say yes to everything.  Instead of  saying yes, I want you to stop and say... Read More

I want to tell you about a secret today, a secret behind anger. We all like secrets,  I know I do, especially good ones that help me! What’s the real secret behind anger?  That’s what I want to talk about today. The  TOP secret for anger management techniques. Here is the secret, all anger is an unmet, unrealistic expectation! When you are depressed or timid, you often hold in your anger and/or deny you have needs and expectations. Wow, what does that mean? It means that something  didn’t happen that we expected and now we’re angry about it. I will give you an example-... Read More

Do yo find yourself always focusing on others and no one seems to listen to you? Have you ever been in a room and not find yourself? Or Do you find that when someone asks you what you think…. and you don’t know? Do you notice you pick up on feelings of others? These are a few signs of codependency to answer the question of what is codependency. So what can you do about this? One strategy to do is: 1. Focus on yourself and define you boundary. 2.Imagine a bubble around yourself. I like to imagine that it is like a bubble  that is like” mirror sunglasses” , You can see out... Read More