I have written on previous  posts  on anger management techniques and  I have  addressed  different topics. I addressed understanding the cues and triggers of  anger, the positives and the negative to anger, a secret to anger(one of them being expectations),  and I  talked about calming down techniques. So  now that you are calmed down,don’t escalate it any further. You have taken your break from it and feel calm? The next  anger management technique is that you both must agree to work it out. You show willingness to communicate by facing each other, preferable sitting down  and... Read More

Trying to hide your feelings is very difficult. The truth is, we  are always expressing  through Nonverbal communication. Some people can read nonverbal communication more easily than others. Let’s talk about trying to hide our crabbiness, another word for crabbiness is irritability. You may not be feeling satisfied or you may want things to be different. Nonverbal communication of impatience and irritability can be shown in many ways: –Tapping fingers or objects -Tapping your foot –A huff or a sigh –Rolling your eyes up –Looking at your watch or the clock -Your... Read More

You feel yourself getting angry or you’ve just blown up at someone, now what do you do? What needs to happen is for you to calm down. Remember people respond to your emotions and not to your words, so it’s best to communicate from a calm place. So basically calming down is calming your mind down. Anger management techniques help with this. If you’ve just blown up or get very angry, research show that it takes 20 to 30 minutes for your brain to return to normal. You want your brain to be calmer so you can find win-win solutions. And also to be able to do any repair work in the... Read More

Have you ever sat in the room and felt uncomfortable?  Have you ever had a conversation with someone who was talking reasonably and  made sense but you didn’t believe them? Well you were responding to nonverbal communication. Most of our communication is nonverbal communication.  It is said only about 7 -10% of our communication are the words that we speak.  The rest of our communication is non-verbal communication.  There are very many ways we communicate non verbally. Some ways are body language.  Are we open, are we closed.  Are we moving forward or are we pulling back. The tone... Read More

I want to tell you about a secret today, a secret behind anger. We all like secrets,  I know I do, especially good ones that help me! What’s the real secret behind anger?  That’s what I want to talk about today. The  TOP secret for anger management techniques. Here is the secret, all anger is an unmet, unrealistic expectation! When you are depressed or timid, you often hold in your anger and/or deny you have needs and expectations. Wow, what does that mean? It means that something  didn’t happen that we expected and now we’re angry about it. I will give you an example-... Read More

I know last time I talked about anger and about it being neither good nor bad. It is just energy! What we do with it, is what’s important. It often feels like our anger controls us and  we feel like there is a dark heavy cloud above us, where ever we go and whatever we do. So how are Anger Management techniques related to depression? I  know that when we’re depressed, we often have a lot of anger that we either dole out on everyone else or we just internalize and beat ourselves up. So I want to talk about recognizing anger because often times we are not even aware of our anger. I... Read More

Hello Dear One, One of the common signs of depression is anger. Melissa usually calls it irritability. She is cranky all the time. She gets angry easily, over little things and latter wonders why she got so angry in the first place. Every little thing seems to bother her and she is quick to anger. She may slam doors or cabinets, she may swear more and she lacks patience. She sees everything in a negative light. She is critical and judgmental. THE FIRST THING TO UNDERSTAND, IS TO UNDERSTAND ANGER ITSELF. Anger is not good or bad. What is important is what you do with it. The bad part of anger... Read More