I don’t know if we ever grow up. We often feel a different age than our biological age.  It’s good to feel younger than your biological age, for the most part. This question, ‘What do I want to do when I grow up?’  can come up at different times in your life. It often comes up at life transitions– when you graduate from high school, or graduate from college, birth of children, loss of a job,a divorce, change in the economy,a  midlife crisis or other transitions.  These transitions are all opportunities to ask yourself the question, ‘What do I want to do... Read More

We’ve all lied at sometime.  We’ve all been lied to. We even lie to ourselves?  We believe in being honest, so…why do people lie?  The importance of communication can shed some light on this situation.  As teenagers, we probably have all lied to our parents at some point.  We lie to get our own way, but behind that is that we didn’t want to get a no or have our parents angry or upset with us.  As adults, we may lie to our personal and primary relationships. We lie in two ways: 1.  We lie to ourselves about ourselves.  We deny aspects or parts of ourselves because... Read More

Having the attitude of  ”  My life is  good ” is  a matter of perspective.  It’s an attitude of my life is good and I am happy. I know that  life has its ups and downs. How we handle them is what  makes the difference.  You always have a choice: Do I focus on the negative ? or Do I focus on the good? The negative view is usually what’s happening in the moment or a small narrow focus.  Or we focus on the good, a larger focus. If you review your life from a higher perspective, you might notice  that everything works out, eventually. It may not work out the way you... Read More

Self esteem is believing in yourself.  It is saying to yourself and others – “I matter to myself.” It is the feeling of self-confidence, knowing you can do (or get the help to do) whatever it is you want to do. It is also self-worth, knowing you have value.  You do not need to prove your worth or earn your worth; you already have it. Self esteem activities help you build your feelings of self-worth and self confidence. So some  self esteem activities are: 1. One of the most important activities is how we talk to ourselves inside our heads, with no put downs.  Talk to yourself... Read More